By this point, I'm headed out the door as he is feeding the girls breakfast and playing chase. And can I just say, why does he get to be the "fun" parent?? I'm always doing the boring mundane things and he's doing the exciting ones. I get in the car and driving down the interstate and listening to sappy love songs wishing for that spark...that new love high you get when you first met him. My mind was wondering thinking about all our friends and how I feel like they all have these happy marriages. I finally get to work and walk in-turns out the ladies in the office were having a soup lunch today and I wasn't invited. Suddenly, the tears start falling. I'm texting A saying, "I'm totally sobbing because I didn't get invited to lunch". She replies she is sobbing "because of an extra dance practice." We are so done for the day and it wasn't even 8:30am. It wasn't really about a silly office lunch....it was driven by a desire to be wanted. Don't get me wrong, as I've said, I know my husband and I love each other deeply, but every day is not glorious-that's for sure. Out of desperation, I called a friend and said, "I'm having a really bad day". Of course, apparently most everyone around me was today. She replied, "yep, me too." But she went on to say,"whats wrong?" I said, "SK was crying about my dad this morning, I didn't get invited to lunch, and we just celebrated 8 years and I feel like we are struggling more in our marriage than ever-it's just sooo hard to juggle it all!" And her response has brought me to a halt today. This wise friend who has been married 25 years and has 3 almost grown children said: "Honey, it's hard work. But it's not a sprint...it's a marathon. Pace yourself and keep working at it". and there it was. I was so wrapped up trying to keep up my sprint that I lost sight of the prize-We love each other deeply and are committed to each other for a lifetime-through the so called race injuries, the miles when you have to push yourself beyond your mental breakdowns, and the celebration of accomplishment when you finish the race. So tonight there will be a deep conversation about how we can better train for our marathon and focus on each other in the midst of the madness.